Saturday, January 20, 2018

Making A Better Life

I've been feeling sorry for myself these last few months- I knew this was a pattern, that, as winter hit, so did my mood, in the negative direction. Something about the cold days and the sky getting dark at an early hour causes my mood- along with many others I’m sure- to drop into depression.

As 2017 passed and 2018 arrived, I wanted to do something that would perhaps raise my spirits. I started going to the gym, wanting to use up my membership before it expired.  Should I renew my subscription? I asked my mom, considering I only went to the gym about four times in the past year. No, she said, unless you think you will really push yourself. I decided to renew and since then have been going to the gym 3 times a week for at least an hour. As a result, I’ve been feeling better about myself. In the past, I would blame my lack of going on it being too cold, my being too busy. But now I make it a point to go at least 2 or 3 times a week.

In addition, I had a conversation with a fellow community member about her work at Big Brother Big Sister, an organization that pairs a “Big,” a mentor, with a “Little,” a child. About a month later I applied to become a Big, and have since then had an interview and am waiting on reference checks before I start being matched up with a little girl aged 7-12.

Last week I volunteered with a couple of friends at a homeless shelter. I didn’t feel like I did much, honestly, but could tell the people who were left in charge of the shelter that evening really appreciated my help.



I don’t know if it’s been mostly exhaustion, or laziness, or the cold weather- or all three equally, that has made me want to stay inside rather than endure the hassle of getting bundled up with gloves, a scarf, a hat, boots, and jacket and going outside only to remove this winter gear as soon as I get to my destination. But I know that when I do make the effort, I feel better about myself. And when doing so in order to help other people, it certainly lifts my spirits and gives me the social push I need to feel good long after.